by Mama Rita
Hopefully by now the Village offspring know they have four sets of parents. Which means when the offspring "date," "are in a relationship," "have a boy/girlfriend," or whatever the appropriate label may be, the significant other may well meet not one, but up to four sets of parents.
Luke, Caleb, and I took Ryan to dinner (Ryan was in town for a law student's conference) this evening. We had a delightful time. Ryan even took my side on an issue we were discussing, which goes to show you he is a very smart young man.
There should have been one more person at dinner -- Ryan's s friend, Brittany. She wasn't there because she allegedly had cookies in the oven. I suggested to Ryan that was just an excuse to avoid meeting us. Ryan explained the Village kids don't like to bring their dates around the Village parents. He referenced the young man Courtney brought to a Village event that was told to "get your own plate." Regardless of that one event, I am just baffled by the idea that Ryan and the others may feel the need to "protect" their significant others from the Village parents.
Would the Village kids please explain why they wouldn't want the people who love them oh so much to meet the young man or woman that may one day be added to the Village?
Note: Ryan's friend picked him up from the restaurant, so we had the opportunity to meet her and have a nice conversation. They make a cute couple, as can be seen in the photo above. She is cute and smart and my soror. Best of all, she bought us a Ziploc bag full of homemade sugar cookies -- fresh out of the oven!
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I hope Ced and Dorrie read this blog; Brittany is bright, articulate, and quite cool and she cooks! Did I say, she cooks? But since Ced and Dorrie both have an aversion to technology...I doubt it. :{
Note to Village Kids: I hope I speak for all village parents when I write: whoever you date is your choice. Our reception or non-reception should not be a factor; it's your decision. If you want our advice, fine; if you don't want our advice fine. Just give your dates a heads up that it will be overwhelming to meet 'four parents.' (Heck, I would be overwhelmed too.)
Stan, give me some credit. I spoke to Ced and Dorri during dinner last night. This is no surprise. Also, the couple knew the post was coming. We are all good!
I have a few things things to say: for starters, I read this blog post, in combination with the "tweets" (<--is that the proper term for them? ) and I would like to get some clarification, Luke Bobo said something to the effect of she's smart, articulate , etc. etc. are we surprised that Ryan can pick a "insert whatever term for her you would like here" that has all of these qualities? Seemed like there was an air of surprise, low key. Second, Ryan would be absolutely accurate in expressing the village kids collective feeling towards bringing a date around. And that is, avoid if at all possible, he said it more eloquently. Third, there is a sense of protection especially in light of the fix-your-own-plate incident, and just by knowing all the village dads ..... that interaction is frightening. It is scary enough for Luke B. Bobo to meet them, let alone Mr. Tim Jones, Mr. Ced Rowan and my GodFather Papa Stan.
I do think, however, that if it any relationship is getting serious at all, it is necessary to warn ... I mean inform them that 4 sets of parentals are included in the package.
OMG! I know the Village Children must get overwhelmed by the Village Parents. I am overwhelmed at the thought of this encounter. Poor Brittany and Ryan.....it really sounds like a scene from a movie. I hope the Village parents remember that some of the Village Children are full grown legal adults and they have their own thoughts and opinions about how to conduct their own lives. I am not saying that we should not offer our opinions or advice, but we need remember just that.... it is an offer not a mandate. Come on parents...remember when you were already grown and adults in your life was still treating you like you were 16?
Villagers: I think there must be a misperception. Ryan and Brittany were not acosted and questioned. The conversation we had about the kids bringing their dates around the parents happened before Brittany arrived. In fact, we had finished dinner and were about to leave when Brittany arrived. I took a quick photo of them both and a photo of Ryan for the KUBAC newsletter, which is why I had the camera out. Ryan sent me a very nice e-mail saying he enjoyed the evening and the conversations and was glad we met Brittany. What do y'all think happened?
I promised Ryan I would write the blog to generate conversation among the young villagers. And he promised to weigh in after I made the post. This was all planned and not what it is being made to be by some folks!
Calm down! :-)
Ok,
As one of the village parents, I want to thank Mama Rita and Papa Luke for looking out for one of the village offspring. I appreciate their kindness and expense in feeding Ryan last weekend. Ryan is excited about his relationship with Brittany and I look forward to meeting her soon.
Now, I have a few comments on the subject of bringing dates to the village parents.
1. We love you all and want nothing but the best for you.
2. We have raised you to be good persons and citizens with a high respect for yourself – meaning you won’t just date anyone.
3. You all have a belief that will keep you in check and on the right path.
Remember, we were young too and experienced similar feelings about bringing home a date to meet our parents. Hey, that’s life and part of maturing and growing up.
So, let’s drop all this about bringing home the date. We will accept them and welcome them into the village with respect.
I am looking forward to meeting all the beautiful young man and woman you guys may be dating.
General Ced
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